Question 1

Is Mean it club right for me?

Accepted Answer

Mean It Club is designed for people who are genuinely ready to meet others with intention.
It tends to suit people who:

• Are single (divorced or truly separated is fine)
 • Take care of themselves and how they show up
 • Communicate clearly and respectfully
 • Enjoy dry humour and straightforward conversation
 • Are open to meeting in person rather than endlessly messaging

It may not be the right fit if you:

• Aren’t currently single
 • Misrepresent your age, appearance, or circumstances
 • Are looking for something casual or undefined
 • Don’t have the emotional space to meet new people right now
 • Find direct communication uncomfortable

This is a space for people who show up consistently, treat others well, and are ready to meet in person.
If that’s not where you are right now, that’s completely okay - it may simply not be the right moment.

Question 2

How do the events work?

Accepted Answer

You apply, we review your profile, and - if you’re a good fit - a small team places you into a group for an upcoming event.
It’s not algorithmic or mystical. Just people who know what they’re doing.

Question 3

When do the events take place?

Accepted Answer

Events usually take place on Wednesdays or Saturdays - one midweek option, one weekend option.
Both are designed to be easy to fit around real life.

Question 4

How much does it cost?

Accepted Answer

Each event is £35.

This includes:
 • Entry to a small, curated group
 • A welcome drink
 • A considered alternative to dating apps

When you’re invited to an event, you’ll receive a payment link.
Your place is confirmed once payment is made.

Question 5

How big are the groups?

Accepted Answer

Groups are small by design - typically around 8–10 people.
Big enough for variety.
Small enough for real conversation.
There will always be a host present to welcome everyone, make introductions if needed, and ensure the evening runs smoothly.

Question 6

Where are the events held?

Accepted Answer

Events are held in central London (Zone 1 or 2).
Locations are chosen for being easy to get to, comfortable, and suited to conversation - not novelty value.
We avoid overly formal or showy venues. The focus is on atmosphere, not postcode.

Question 7

How much notice do I get?

Accepted Answer

You’ll usually receive a few days’ notice for each event, along with a short confirmation window.
This helps keep groups organised and ensures everyone attending genuinely plans to show up.

Question 8

How will I know if I am invited to an event?

Accepted Answer

If you’re accepted onto the list, you’ll receive occasional event invitations by email.
Each invitation comes with a short confirmation window so we can keep groups organised.
If you can’t confirm in time, the place will be offered to someone else - there’s no penalty, and you’ll still be considered for future events.

Question 9

Do I get matched?

Accepted Answer

Not in an algorithmic sense.
You’re placed in a small, curated group of people selected for overall compatibility - based on your questionnaire, a brief video call, and how you show up.
The aim isn’t to predict chemistry.
It’s to put the right people in the same room and let real connection happen naturally.

Question 10

Do you guarantee I will meet someone?

Accepted Answer

No - and we’re upfront about that.
What we do guarantee is a thoughtfully curated room of people who are genuinely there to meet someone, communicate well, and show up with intention.
Connection is human.
We create the conditions for it - the rest is up to you.

Question 11

Do I have to talk to everyone?

Accepted Answer

No - there’s no pressure to circulate or perform.
Events are set up so conversations happen naturally, at a comfortable pace. You’re welcome to speak with everyone, or focus on a few people you connect with.
There are no speeches, icebreakers, or forced interactions - just normal conversation.

Question 12

How do you choose who attends what event?

Accepted Answer

A small team reviews applications and creates groups based on compatibility - including communication style, values, and general dating expectations.
The aim is simple: to put together a room that feels balanced, comfortable, and easy to be in.
The process is calm, discreet, and intentionally human.

Question 13

Is this speed dating?

Accepted Answer

No.
There’s no rotation, no timers, and no pressure to perform. Events are designed to allow conversations to unfold naturally - at a pace that feels relaxed and human.
You’ll have time to finish your thoughts, enjoy your drink, and decide who you’d like to spend time talking to.

Question 14

Is this a hosted event?

Accepted Answer

Yes. There is always a host present to welcome guests and ensure the evening runs smoothly.

Question 15

What if I don’t fancy anyone and feel like I’ve wasted my time (or money)?

Accepted Answer

That’s a fair question - and yes, it can happen.
We don’t try to guarantee attraction. What we do instead is remove the most common reasons people leave disappointed: obvious mismatches, low effort, and rooms that don’t make sense.
Your questionnaire (including what you’re attracted to) is taken seriously and used to create groups where attraction is genuinely possible - not random.
That said, chemistry is human.
Sometimes it surprises you. Sometimes it doesn’t.
Even when there isn’t a romantic spark, most people leave having had a calm, enjoyable evening with people they’d actually choose to talk to - which is very different from scrolling an app.
We focus on creating the right conditions.
Attraction still gets to be real.

Question 16

What if I someone feels uncomfortable at an event?

Accepted Answer

Events are hosted, and the host is available throughout the evening.
If someone feels uncomfortable, they can speak to the host at any point. We take concerns seriously and will act where appropriate, including removing someone from future events if necessary.

Question 17

What is your cancellation policy?

Accepted Answer

All event bookings are non-refundable.
Because groups are small and carefully curated, cancelled places can’t usually be filled at short notice.
If we need to cancel an event, you’ll receive a full refund or the option to transfer your place to a future date.
Otherwise, payments are final.