What is the Mean it club?
We’re not a dating app.
We’re not a singles mixer.
Mean It Club is a small, curated dating club for adults aged 34–49 who prefer meeting in person and enjoy a well-held room.
It’s for people who like good conversation, appreciate a bit of humour, and want dating to feel natural rather than performative.
Thoughtful. In person. Unforced.
With real dating potential.
What are the age groups?
34-44
39-49
*Age ranges are a guide, not a rule.
What makes us different?
Curated, balanced groups
Designed for opposite-sex dating, with numbers kept intentionally small so conversations flow naturally.
Considered matching
Introductions are based on your questionnaire and a short video call - thoughtful human judgement, not algorithms.
A room that makes sense
Groups are balanced by age, lifestyle, and expectations, so the evening feels
comfortable from the moment you arrive.
Real dating potential
Physical attraction matters. Groups are curated with care, not left to chance or
polite guessing.
Clear, current photos
Recent photos only - accurate, natural, and recognisable.
Conversations without pressure
Unrushed, comfortable, and genuinely engaging. No scripts. No formats.
London-based adults
With full lives and a grounded approach to dating.
Central London venues
Zone 1–2 locations chosen for atmosphere, acoustics, and ease.
Calm, well-held evenings
Respectful, social environments designed for adults who value ease and good manners.
A discreet nudge when it helps
If there’s a clear mutual connection, we’ll quietly point it out - without pressure.
Events that feel human
Thoughtful, relaxed, and nothing like a nightclub mixer.
How does it work?
Step 1 - Apply
Fill out a short questionnaire and upload recent photos.
Thoughtful, accurate answers help us create groups that make sense.
Step 2 - Video call
A brief, relaxed call to confirm everyone is real, comfortable, and showing up as themselves.
Step 3 - Approval
If it’s a good fit, you’ll be added to the member list for your age range.
Step 4 - Invitations
You’ll receive invitations to small, curated dinners or drinks with people aligned in age, values, lifestyle, and energy.
Step 5 - Meet people who mean it
In person. Without the noise.
Testimonials
These are early reactions from our first gatherings and conversations.
"I met three normal men in one evening, which is three more than I’ve met in the last four years."
— Jessica, 39 from Islington
Calm evening. Proper conversations. I left feeling hopeful - which is not something I usually associate with dating.
- Matt, 36 from Chelsea
“Everyone seemed genuinely interested in meeting someone. Refreshing.”
- Chris, 45 from Tooting